Until now, MC Thao Van still regrets that in the past, she did not encourage and encourage her son to learn to swim so that he can grow even taller.
The audience of 7X, 8X certainly can’t forget the lovely comedy series of “Weekend Meet” or “Year-End Meet” led by a charming, intelligent female MC with an unmistakable voice – MC Thao Van. Later, she followed in the footsteps of journalist Lai Van Sam “in charge” of the program “Happy memories”… In particular, every New Year’s Eve and Spring came, the image of Thao Van sent her opening greetings and New Year’s greetings in the chapter. The show Tao Quan left a deep impression on the audience. It is no exaggeration to say, seeing Thao Van is seeing Tet!
Over 3 decades of working with the profession, female MCs have always been loved for her calm, gentle and profound demeanor.
MC Thao Van has been with “Tao Quan” for nearly 20 years.
At the age of 52, she still retains her youthful, salty appearance and grace and love
After the breakdown of her marriage with People’s Artist Cong Ly, MC Thao Van “stayed” to raise her son and currently has no intention of getting married. For 12 years as a single mother, her son has always been a solid support for MC Thao Van. Notably, she still maintains a good relationship with artist Cong Ly and her son’s grandparents. The female MC had many sincere sharings regarding the life of mother and daughter as well as future orientations for Titus.
A good relationship from before, there is no reason to break it!
Can you describe a little bit regarding your current life?
For me, my current life can be summed up in two words: Peace!
The audience is already familiar with the image of Thao Van on television, so is her personality different in real life than when she appears on screen?
Actually, in real life, Van is also a gentle person, but perhaps there are more things that the audience does not know, that is, when I am alone with my family or close friends, I am extremely naughty. “funny”, muddy, just like a humorous element.
In real life, MC Thao Van considers herself to be quite a “silly” person.
In real life, you are admired for having a close relationship with Titus’s paternal grandparents following the divorce, what is your secret?
In fact, in terms of maintaining relations with Titus’s grandparents, I don’t think there is any secret. It all comes from the sincere feelings in each person’s heart. I just go to my grandparents sincerely, they will recognize and treat them like that, especially when grandparents are older, so they really need the love and care of their children and grandchildren.
Although I and Mr. Ly broke up, my grandparents were still Titus’s grandparents, still a very clear bond and attachment. To me, Titus’s grandparents were like grandparents when he was still alive. That’s why I still visit my grandparents, now that I’m no longer a daughter-in-law, I’m a daughter, an adopted child… A good relationship from before, there’s no reason to break it!
What time do you usually take Titus to visit his grandparents?
When Titus was young, I often took Titus to his grandparents on holidays, holidays, special occasions such as grandparents’ birthdays, birthdays of children at home or Titus’s aunt’s birthday.
Later, when Titus grew up, I became less luxurious, but I often reminded him. Actually, I also know how to voluntarily visit my grandparents when I am free, not busy with school or when I go out with friends, I can turn to visit my grandparents. I always remind my children to visit their grandparents often and maintain this to the present.
What regarding the relationship between me and Cong Ly’s father, sister?
During the time when Mr. Ly was sick, Titus might not go to the hospital to take care of his father because at that time, when the Covid-19 epidemic was rampant, only adults went to the hospital to take care of Ly’s father. After his father was discharged from the hospital, Titus often ran back and forth to visit him, texting and calling his father’s health every day.
I feel that Titus loves, loves and cares regarding his father very much. Whenever I have free time, I come over to play with my father. I always encourage and encourage that with my children!
Titus’ personality is more like Cong Ly’s father or more like Thao Van’s mother?
Titus also has a lot of personality traits like his father, such as “getting bored quickly” for example (laughs). For example, if she likes something, she will love it at first, but then quickly get bored. Different from her mother because Van can like something for so long, that I have played a game since Titus was a baby. Now I still say how can you play such an old, outdated game. Titus has always liked innovation. I think it’s also a good one, always new.
Besides, Titus is like his father in that he doesn’t talk much, only speaks when he needs to talk and is also quite humorous.
After returning home to celebrate Tet, mother and daughter will visit their paternal and father’s house
The secret for MC Thao Van to raise her son to grow taller and healthier?
In fact, Titus is not very tall, but fortunately, he is a type of “showing his figure”, not hiding his figure. Now I’m a little older than 1m70. I’m also a bit sorry because if Titus worked hard to play basketball or swim, he would probably be much taller.
However, perhaps due to personality, I do not like crowded sports, but prefer contact sports. In the past, Titus liked to play badminton, now he is involved in soccer, but is a goalkeeper. So sometimes I still wish Titus might be taller, how good it is!
In addition to the physical development, the child also changes psychologically, how did you accompany your child during puberty?
In fact, Titus is at a tender age, but Van feels quite lucky because she doesn’t have too many expressions that people often say “rebellious”, stubborn or violent… So, sometimes, mother and daughter also have “flaming” arguments and sometimes she will overreact. At that time, I also felt sad, even sad.
However, when I calmed down, I realized that I myself needed to learn from experience, should not push the story too far, push the discussion up too intense. Because in fact, when we argue, we often want to win regarding ourselves, less listening to the other person, thinking we are right.
When we argue, we have to put ourselves in their shoes. I take my own experiences and experiences, but on the contrary, I also need to look at the problem from the perspective of a 17-year-old boy to understand why he thinks like that. Is the generation gap, the change of life, society, and thoughts from the previous generation still relevant? I also need to frankly admit the problem, my mother is not always right. Because most likely, the mother’s experience, in the past, was correct, but it is not necessarily still relevant today.
When your child “rebellious”, how will you react?
Like I said, I don’t act rebellious, protest too strongly. Tired of such luck. It is also possible that this is the result of a whole process, since Titus was a child, living in an environment where he always tries to create a peaceful atmosphere in the family and if there is a problem, often is having frank discussions, arguing with each other to come to a final conclusion, knowing who is right and who is wrong. And the wrong person, if there is a mother, also needs to apologize in a proper way…! So fortunately, it did not happen that Titus protested too strongly.
But sometimes I have a hard time, there is a temper, I will wait for that to pass, all the anger subside, and then tell Titus not to be like that. And even I myself have learned from my own experience: should choose a certain way of conversation so as not to push things to a climax, direct the debate in the most peaceful direction possible, not go too far.
MC Thao Van does not hesitate to publicize the fact that her son has a girlfriend, are you worried that your child will fall in love early?
In fact, the fact that Titus has a girlfriend, many people may feel: “Oh, why did you let me have a girlfriend so early?”. But honestly, I think at my child’s age right now, maybe it’s not really love with full nuances, maybe it’s just the first fluttering feelings in life. I think it should not be forbidden so that the children find it difficult to share or reveal to their mother. After all, love is a natural thing. The point is to help them understand, so as not to make mistakes.
What if I forbid her, maybe she’ll hide it, still fall in love, and even do things that aren’t very good? I am very afraid of that, so I want to listen to my child, share with him and help him when he needs help from adults.
Van is not afraid of the feeling that if she has a lover, she will pay less attention to her mother, but only afraid that she does not understand her child, so that she has to close all doors, erect an invisible barrier with her mother because she does not receive sympathy and sharing. share from mother.
As a mother, how did you guide and educate your children regarding sex?
As for sex education, children are now learning very early, and they have many means to research and learn. My point of view is that it is not forbidden for children to learn regarding sex, but should let them know clearly so that they can see what should, shouldn’t, and how harmful they are.
Just like when Titus had a girlfriend, I still remind her that when they have feelings for each other, they need to think carefully. If you do not know how to take care, the person who suffers the most is not you but your girlfriend, because women will suffer a lot of physical and mental losses if something happens.
At that time, Titus told her mother that you can rest assured, we have learned, learned and mastered it, I will not do anything harmful to myself and my friends. I think this is the result of age-appropriate sex education. Wherever you go, what age should you tell your children regarding, let’s have such a frank discussion. That’s what I think is very important
How do you plan and prepare for your son’s future?
In the future, Titus’s job, I let my children decide. As for me, as far as I can prepare, I will do it. As for the children, they will have to learn and promote their own values, know what they like and are passionate regarding, so that later on they will not have to regret “because I listened to you” or “because I followed you”.
Perhaps, both mother and daughter will choose together, see how to do it and Van can’t confirm that all choices are right now, but when I have prepared in advance, it will be better.
Regarding work, I think Titus will probably work in the media sector, because it is suitable for his children’s abilities, as well as for Van and Ly’s ability to help.
Can you share your mother and daughter’s plan to celebrate Tet 2023?
Most of the years, mother and daughter go back to their hometown to celebrate Tet. My mother died early, and my father, but then he also died, but in the countryside, there are still brothers and sisters, that is, the uncles of Titus. I went to celebrate Tet with my brothers and sisters, feeling the warm Tet atmosphere of the family. And when they come to Hanoi, mother and daughter will visit and wish Tet to their grandparents and father Tit’s house.
What are your plans in 2023?
In 2023, I don’t have any big plans, because I’m still a state official, working and completing tasks at Hanoi National University. Besides, for external programs, whichever program is suitable, I will continue to devote and serve the audience.
Thank you for sharing!
