I only have 2 sisters in my family, so we love each other very much. To my parents, we are the most valuable asset, although we do not have much, but my sisters and I do not lack anything. I still remember the day my sister got married, when she got on the flower car and her father cried. The first time I saw my father cry, but he did not dare to show it in front of her because he was afraid that his daughter would worry.
She was married to someone’s family and her parents were still worried, I don’t know if she would be loved by her husband’s family when she came back, if she would be treated well. The family has 2 daughters, she is married, I work far away from the city, so there are only parents at home. Whenever I or my sister take the children home to play, the parents are as happy as Tet. Perhaps the joy of old age of parents is not material abundance, but children return home and reunite, that’s enough.
Now I understand how disadvantaged it is to have a daughter. After many years of raising children, I lost my husband when I got married, no one was around. But parents never complain, tell stories, but always encourage their children. So I am 27 years old and still do not want to get married because I want to stay with my parents longer. I will not be like her, getting married far away and then returning to my grandmother is also difficult.
My sister and her husband are also not rich, the brothers and sisters who bought a house on installments still have a debt of 600 million. Previously, she lived with her husband’s parents, but following 1 year, they decided to live on their own and take care of their own lives. Every time I went up to play, she saw that she was having a hard time, and she told me not to come back to tell her or my parents would worry. I also understood, so I didn’t say anything, my parents just thought that she lived well and comfortably.
The last time my house was in a new road construction project, so I was compensated quite well. Having a surplus of money, my parents called me and my sister to the festival and shared. My parents keep an amount to repair the house and take care of old age care, and my sister and I will get 500 million. I did not need the money, so I still asked my mother to help me, and my sister firmly refused. She did not receive even 1,000 from her grandmother’s house.
My family didn’t understand why she was so harsh. My parents don’t have a son, giving 2 daughters to get capital to work, is it good for your family to pay off the debt? My mother forced her to receive a degree, but she did not accept it, which upset her parents. Until she cried and apologized and said the reason for refusing the help of her grandmother’s family: “In the past, my parents gave me and my wife 150 million to buy a house, but my husband and children are ungrateful, do you know what that is? where, even speaking badly. So it’s best now that my grandmother doesn’t give me any more, not even 1 thousand. Help, let people know what’s right, parents.”
My whole family sighed silently at what she said, she said she wanted to hide it, but now she will tell the truth because she doesn’t want my parents to hope and think well of the groom or the family. No matter how much grandma gives, people still look down on them. Also because of the amount of 150 million, the couple constantly quarreled. Her parents-in-law thought that it was her own money before getting married, she said that to speak her mother’s language.
My father was silent for a while and then confided: “If it is too difficult to live there, then go back to your parents. Don’t be afraid of life, afraid of your parents’ reputation. Parents are not afraid of anything, just afraid of their two daughters suffering, being treated badly.” She hugged her father and cried, my whole family cried, but I felt sorry for her and took care of myself. I’m afraid that I will be like you when I get married because there are few grooms who value their grandmother’s family.
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