published10. September 2022, 21:27
doctor sex“His penis makes me feel disgusted!”
Oral sex is currently turning Annina off. But she wants to overcome her resistance. However, she doesn’t know how. Doctor Sex has advice.
Annina wants to give her boyfriend oral pleasure, but she’s disgusted by his penis. dr Sex knows advice.
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Question from Annina (29) to Doctor Sex
I’ve had a boyfriend for over a year. We both like the relationship and we enjoy being together. When it comes to sex, we’re not quite on the same wavelength. I especially have a hard time with oral sex.
He has expressed the wish several times that I satisfy him with my mouth. Actually, I would like to do that too, but when the time comes, I feel blocked and disgusted to put this thing in my mouth.
I still want to try to fulfill his wish, but I don’t really know how to go regarding it and what to do specifically. do you have any tips
Answer from Doctor Sex
In my counseling practice, I occasionally meet people who experience insecurities or – like you – disgust when dealing with the sexual organ of the other person during sex. These challenges are part of the sexual learning process and are not a reason to worry or even avoid sex.
It seems important to me that you can relax and find security in dealing with your friend’s “thing”. So it’s not really regarding fulfilling his wish. Your goal is to just get some casual contact with his penis.
I recommend you to do this in a playful way. Touch him however you want, with no intention of doing it. Let your curiosity run wild. Examine the shaft of the penis and the foreskin, push them back and examine the glans. Touch the scrotum and testicles. Study the color, shape, and texture of his genitals, both flaccid and aroused.
Dare to ask questions!
Have your boyfriend tell you what it’s like to have a penis and how he keeps it clean. And ask him to show you how he handles his penis and balls when he touches and masturbates himself. Maybe you would like him to guide your hand and show you how much pressure and rhythm it takes to create pleasant feelings. But also how hands and fingers move and where the zones are where he particularly likes to be stimulated.
If you feel ready and maybe even want to go a little further with your explorations, you can just kiss his penis. And in a next step, tickle him a little with your tongue. Don’t let yourself be put under any pressure – neither by your friend nor by your expectations of yourself.
As far as the technique of the actual oral sex is concerned, you are completely free. Basically it involves stimulating and caressing the penis, scrotum and testicles with your mouth, tongue and lips. You can suck, lick, suck or even use your teeth gently and at the same time use your hands and fingers to help. For example, by additionally rubbing and squeezing the penis and massaging the testicles. All the best!
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Bruno Wermuth runs his own practice in Bern and Zurich Couples Counseling and sex counseling through. Once a week, as “Doctor Sex”, he answers a question on the topics of relationships, love and sexuality. www.brunowermuth.ch
