My husband does not invest in our family at all. He spends almost all the money on his mother. We have been married for two years, the child is four months old, I am now on maternity leave. My husband works on shifts and makes good money, but he spends only regarding 20,000 rubles from his salary on our family.
50 thousand every month he transfers to his mother. The mother-in-law is 64 years old and lives alone. Do not think that I am once morest helping my parents or have something once morest my mother-in-law, but my husband’s behavior sometimes just causes disgust and sheer negativity.
We don’t have our own apartment, we rent a small kopeck piece in an old house in a not very prosperous area. The husband the year before last bought his mother a three-room apartment in a new building and completely equipped it.
When I found out that I was pregnant, I began to hint to my husband that it was time for us to think regarding our housing. “Everything suits me anyway. Many families live in rented apartments, no one complains,” he replied.
This topic caused a lot of scandals at that time. I was resigned to the fact that he gave his mother most of his earnings, but the fact that he himself did not want to improve the conditions for his family simply infuriated me.
By the way, my mother-in-law has four children, none of whom invests in their mother as much as my husband. His brothers and sister only occasionally come to visit her or sometimes bring their grandchildren for the weekend.
The mother-in-law likes this alignment, and she calls her husband for any reason. Not so long ago, she cried to him that her old phone did not work well. What do you think? My husband bought her a new one the same day. My phone is already three years old, and my mother-in-law bought her six months ago.
– Why do you need a new one? Release the memory and everything will work fine, – so my husband told me when I started to resent this purchase. This is not the only example.
A mother-in-law always has something to ask her husband, and he will never refuse her: either her TV is too small, or the sofa is somehow uncomfortable, or the washing machine is too noisy, or it’s hard for her to vacuum with an ordinary vacuum cleaner, and recently she has a new wallpaper disliked the apartment.
On this basis, scandals always arise in our family. The husband fulfills all the whims of his mother, and there is no question of buying something for us. What big purchases can we talk regarding when my husband scolds me for every extra ruble spent!
He buys only the essentials for home. For the holidays, he also gives only inexpensive and necessary gifts. He gave me a set of pans for my birthday, and expensive gold jewelry to his mother. This is just an example so you can understand the difference.
The reason for our last major quarrel was his gifts on March 8th. My husband gave me three roses and a box of my favorite sweets. Of course, I was grateful and glad, but when I found out that he gave my mother-in-law, I might not be stopped. And for his beloved mother, the husband paid for a ticket to Egypt for a week.
– You and I never went anywhere, even following the wedding you said that it was a waste of money! And now you pay your mother for an expensive ticket, – I boiled.
Her husband’s arguments were not very convincing. He said that his mother had been very tired this year and needed to rest. Yes, the pensioner, whose son pays for all her whims, is tired of such a life and decided to fly on vacation!
Does that mean I’m not tired? I sit with the child, I manage to earn extra money, I don’t have a robot vacuum cleaner or a dishwasher that my mother-in-law has, but my mother-in-law is tired, not me.
My husband yelled at me, called me mercantile and went to my mother to congratulate her on March 8. I don’t even know what to do next. I don’t have the patience for all this anymore. The husband believes that he is the perfect son and does everything right, and I am not ready to continue to turn a blind eye to the whims of his mother.
In the end, we have our own child, our own family, but it’s terribly insulting that the mother-in-law is put above all else. It’s not even regarding the money, but the fact that the husband’s mother-in-law is always a priority. He runs to her at her first call, and at home everything “and so it will come down.”
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