The story in brief
- Couple and psychotherapist Anne Hartung challenges our notions of united families and points out that the traditional nuclear family can be a trap. Instead, she points to a trend that breaks with society’s norms for what a relationship is.
- She specializes in reunified families because she herself lacked knowledge when she got divorced and then fell in love with her current husband, who both have children from previous relationships.
- She believes we should think completely differently when combining children from previous relationships and avoid the classic mistakes that lead to breakups.
I think my bonus son is a brat these days.
The words are impossible to form, although the conversation during the lunch break is about how hard parenting can be at times. And how impossible one’s own children are.
Because what wouldn’t others think?
– Such an announcement is associated with so much shame and a guilty conscience, because we have unrealistically high expectations for the reunited family.
That’s what couple and psychotherapist Anne Hartung says, who every day meets united families who come to her for help to succeed as a couple with your and my children.
An almost impossible constellation, according to the statistics.
Approximately 75 percent of all brought together families end up breaking up.
– Most often it is not because love is lacking, but because it is so immeasurably difficult when two families have to unite. At the same time, it’s not something we really have a language to talk about, explains Anne Hartung.
That is why she spends a large part of her working life beating the drum for a different kind of relationship when you meet love again.
– First of all, we must dare to give up the dream.
2024-08-08 18:38:57
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