15 mars 2023
Anger is a normal emotion we all feel. And if it is sometimes necessary, when it takes control of our actions and our words, then it becomes harmful. How to prevent this from happening? What are the effective methods to fight once morest the outbursts that too often assail us?
Relaxation techniques. This first recommendation seems obvious: to control your anger, you have to relax, relax. Because, by definition, anger is associated with tension, stress. This is why it is useful to know some relaxation techniques to better achieve this. How to proceed ? “Breathing or mental imagery methods can help calm angry feelings,” confirms theAmerican Psychological Association (APA). Many books, courses, podcasts and other videos on YouTube will allow you to acquire them. The important thing is to practice them until they become reflexes. Thus, in a situation of tension, they will come naturally
Face the problems. Sometimes anger and frustration are caused by very real problems in our lives, or even in our daily lives. In this case, to prevent them from continuing to piss us off, it is not necessarily useful – and sometimes, moreover, it is not possible – to resolve them. On the other hand, it is necessary find a way to deal with the problem says the APA. And therefore, to live with more serenity. “Develop a plan to successfully control yourself in the face of this difficulty that makes you angry. Do your best, but don’t punish yourself if the answer doesn’t come right away. »
Slow down and communicate better. When we get angry, often our actions and our words overwhelm us because we react too quickly, too impulsively. So another way to successfully control it may be to take more time before we fight back. “Slow down and think carefully before you answer,” advises the American Psychological Association.
Show humor. Another useful tool: laughter. Absolutely avoiding making fun of course. It’s regarding using simple humor to play down a situation. So, “If you are angry at a co-worker and feel like insulting them, imagine it taking the form of that insult”, recommends the APA. If you see a bidet bottom scrape on its seat, it may distract you and make you smile. Objective : “don’t take yourself too seriously!” »
To take some fresh air. When faced with a situation that makes you angry – if possible – walk away. For example, leave the room or excuse yourself to go to the bathroom. This can allow you to put perspective into your reaction. We all need to breathe.
